Being a Blessing to My Spouse

There are so many times I’ve caught my spouse blessing me in ways I didn’t expect. Things he does even when he is exhausted. Even as I begin this journey into blogland, he has been by my side, actively showing his support and encouragement in multiple ways. Whether a conversation where I share a thought and he gently nudges me with a ‘sounds like a good blog topic’.. or reinforces the things I say or do that he believes may encourage/help others. And physically, by setting up this site.

Mind you, he doesn’t have all the time in the world, and long after I am in bed, and often asleep, he crawls into bed, after staying up hours researching, coding, and testing… to ensure all is perfect.                   All because he loves me.

What a blessing he is to me! (Thank you Hubs, I love and appreciate you more than you’ll ever know- this is just one of the many reasons!)

But as I reflect on all he does for me, I wonder, what do I do for him to be a blessing in his life? And an even more convicting truth, how many opportunities did I have today to bless him and missed them?

Did I miss the opportunity to tell him how good he looked in exchange for pointing out the dishes he missed last night? Did I point him toward the ironing board to press his own shirt instead of inviting him to play with his son for 10 min while I joyfully pressed it for him? Did he know that we would be anxiously awaiting his return this evening, or did I rush out after him to catch the sporadic Oxford sun with Sprout?

I think it can be easy in the fast, rush-to-work pace of the morning, where everyone, but Sprout seems to be in a sleepy-stupor to miss opportunities and even mis-fire.

Scripture is filled with instruction to encourage, build-up, and bless others.

‘..but my mouth would encourage you; comfort from my lips would bring you relief’. (Job 16:5)

1 Thessalonians says ‘Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. (5:11).

I believe this starts with my Husband. Sure there are moments where I might earn a gold star in being a blessing, but am I consistent? Unfortunately, no. This is where the grace and love of Jesus must take over.. I am not ‘kind’ in and of myself. I am selfish. Love and generosity come from One source only. The Holy Spirit living in and through me.

How much of the Holy Spirit does my Husband see in my life? I am not talking about ‘to others’, but to him. How consistently do I bless him? I want it to be more..  Whether it is taking a second to encourage him in the morning, to prepare one of his favorite meals, or to ensure he is relaxed after a long day with a soothing massage.

I want to show my husband I love him as much as he shows he loves me.

Proverbs 5:18 (NLT) creates beautiful imagery. “Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth.” I like the NLT version, as it seems to more clearly indicate to me that the wife is the blessing for the husband. I understand, the writer is specifically referring to sex and faithfulness here, but stay with me.. in the general sense, including the intended meaning, as a wife, I should be a fountain of blessing for my husband.

Wow – a fountain of blessing. Notice, God didn’t say a splash, bucket, or even a river. Each of those are finite. He chose the word fountain. Continuous, free-flowing, refreshing fountain. Most fountains I’ve experienced are made for marveling at, people love to be near them.

I want to be a fountain of blessing for my husband.

Dear Lord, Thank you for choosing an incredible partner for me. Thank you for giving each of us talents that compliment and balance the other’s. Please help me to be a continuous fount of blessing over and in my husband’s life. That I might be more like the wife in Proverbs 31:10 ‘a good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds.’ (The MSG). In the Mighty, Loving Name of Jesus, Amen.



  1. Laurie Weekly
    8 June, 2012

    Catherine, this is the first time I’ve checked out your blog; it rocks! You write soulfully, from the depths of your heart, which makes it appealing to me. Kindred thoughts, keep ’em coming, and good work!

    • Catherine
      8 June, 2012

      Hi Laurie,
      Thank you so much! I don’t know how to respond to such kind words. I appreciate you taking the time to check out the blog and comment. I hope you are doing well.



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